How to make your proposal dreams a reality

Today, it's estimated that 10 percent of women in the U.S. propose to their future husbands. Whether you're one of those 10 percent whoesn't don't stand on ceremony, or part of the vast majority who prefer to be proposed to, you want to be an active participant in this event.

What does this mean, exactly?

First, unless you're someone who values surprises above all else, you shouldn't leave your proposal to chance. For example, if you yearn for a romantic weekend at a country inn where he pops the question over a candlelight dinner, find ways of dropping some hints. If you feel strongly about having a quiet, intimate proposal or one that you can share with your closest friends and family, find a way of sending this message.

What is your dream ring?

You may also have some strong preferences about the type of ring you'd like. Today, many couples shop for rings together, which take the guess work out of selecting a style and size. But you can also let him know, ever so subtly, the kind of ring you dream of.

Today, there's a dizzying array of engagement ring choices in every price range. Before you can guide him or drop the appropriate hints, you'll need to determine which diamond you really want. There are endless choices in terms of shapes and settings.

Think about your other jewelry and how the diamond you wear will look with it. Does your taste run to the more simple and traditional, or do you prefer more elaborate pieces? If most of your jewelry is silver or gold, you'll probably want your setting to match.

Buying an engagement ring is about as romantic a purchase as there is—but it also requires some practical considerations.  First, you need to know something about diamonds. The measure of a diamond's quality and value are determined by the 4Cs – color, clarity, cut and carat weight. Also, you'll want to ensure the retailer you select is reputable and trustworthy. Here are some things to consider when selecting a ring.

There are all kinds of ways of letting him know your preferences—about proposals or about rings— without being too obvious.

Enlist the help of friends and family members, or find ways of slipping some suggestions into your conversations. And if there's anything you would really dislike, make sure he knows. We have great advice on giving him hints.